I commented on one of my blogger friend's blogs recently how I had dropped a friend because she didn't like my art. I called her an art snob. I feel like I should not have written that, but I want to explain a bit about criticism and the right way to do it.
I showed her the above painting I did in 1982-forty years ago! The scene I am describing with my friend happened about 8 years ago.
Anyway, when I showed her this painting, she groaned. I was hurt and put it back on the wall where I have hidden it-way upstairs.
She offered no explaination or ways I could have improved what I did. No reasons at all-just that she thought it was awful. Her art was very different but I appreciated it-it was very abstract. But like I said in my comment, she was showing work in galleries and shows and had sold work too. AND had a college degree. So I felt like her dislike of my painting had some value and that my painting was just plain bad.
Right after I had painted this back in 1982, another artist saw this painting. He said it lacked values.
Now there is the difference. He pointed out what was lacking (one of the many things).
The difference of the critques? I was given no reason to like my painting or feel it had any worth at all from the woman artist. The man told me what the painting needed without his own opinion of whether he liked it or not.
An explanation-the woman artist and I were not close freinds and we lived many miles from each other.
Perhaps she just had a hard time giving good criticsm. Maybe that is an art form also, but I think it's important to never make someone feel like they are a failure.
I aplogise if I have sounded like a snob myself. It was just as wrong of me to drop her as what she said to me about my art.
Living well and right is not easy....